How to do sex education?

Incident induced thinking...


Saudi Man May Have Dirty-Talked Himself to Death Incident

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aAwpiEmiP2c

From the news...

Saudi man 'faces death' over TV sex boast
A Saudi Arabian man could face the death penalty for speaking about his sexual adventures on a talk show aired by a Lebanon-based television network, lawyers said.
Published: 6:00PM BST 02 Aug 2009

Police arrested Mazen Abdul-Jawad, 32, for "publicising vice", a police spokesman in the Red Sea port city of Jeddah said.

The arrest came after 200 Saudi viewers filed complaints following his appearance on a tabloid talk show aired by the Lebanese Broadcasting Corporation.

Abdul-Jawad spoke openly of his sexual experiences on the talk show, "In Bold Red" last month. Like many Arab countries Saudi Arabia prohibits sexual content on television, newspapers, magazines and books.

The divorced father of four children, filmed at his Jeddah apartment, said at the time that he first had sex at the age of 14 with a neighbour and displayed items related to his sex life including a sex guide which he said: "Has been very useful".

He led the television camera to his bedroom saying: "My friends always say that whoever enters this room has to personally bear responsibility ... I spend most of my life in this bedroom ... everything happens in this room".

Analysts expect the case of Abdul-Jawad to give fresh momentum to clerics' calls for strict curbs.

In an article published on Saturday, al-Watan newspaper, known for being a tribune for reformists, strongly criticised Abdul-Jawad's remarks and the Lebanese channel for airing them.

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/worldnews/middleeast/saudiarabia/5961124/Saudi-man-faces-death-over-TV-sex-boast.html

Saudi man could face death for talking sex on TV
Sat Aug 1, 2009 8:06pm IST
By Asma Alsharif and Souhail Karam

JEDDAH, Saudi Arabia (Reuters) - A Saudi man could face a death sentence in the Muslim kingdom for speaking about his sexual adventures on a talk show aired by a Lebanon-based television network, lawyers said on Saturday.
The case could further fortify the role of clerics who have been policing an already conservative society to safeguard moral values set according to the Wahhabi school of Islam which bars interaction between unrelated men and women.
It would also serve as a blow to liberals pushing for reform in the face of stern resistance from clerics, analysts say.
The police arrested Mazen Abdul-Jawad, 32, on Friday for "publicising vice", a police spokesman in the Red Sea port city of Jeddah said. "His case will be forwarded to the commission for investigation and prosecution," said Sulaiman al-Mutaiwea.
Lawyers said Abdul-Jawad could face a death sentence or a 20-year jail sentence. The Saudi justice system is controlled by clerics and is inspired by an austere school of Islam.
"It all depends on the judge's point of view since there are no precise sentences for offences like this. But the judge may show no flexibility towards him and could sentence him to death by stoning to set an example," lawyer Suleiman al-Alwan said.
The arrest came after media reports that about 200 Saudi viewers filed complaints after he appeared on a tabloid talk show aired by the Lebanese Broadcasting Corporation (LBC), which is controlled by Saudi billionaire Prince Alwaleed bin Talal.
Abdul-Jawad spoke openly of his sexual experiences on the talk show, "In Bold Red" last month. Like many Arab countries Saudi Arabia prohibits sexual content on television, newspapers, magazines and books.
The divorced father of four children, filmed at his Jeddah apartment, said at the time that he first had sex at the age of 14 with a neighbour and displayed items related to his sex life including a sex guide which he said: "Has been very useful".
He led the television camera to his bedroom saying: "My friends always say that whoever enters this room has to personally bear responsibility ... I spend most of my life in this bedroom ... everything happens in this room".
He was shown driving his red convertible to a shopping mall where he said he could pick up girls by communicating with them through bluetooth functions on his mobile telephone.
Bluetooth applications allow a discreet way of communication between men and women in public areas in many parts of the Arab world where the society frowns upon relationships between men and women outside wedlock.
Analysts expect the case of Abdul-Jawad to give fresh momentum to clerics' calls for strict curbs.
In an article published on Saturday, al-Watan newspaper, known for being a tribune for reformists, strongly criticised Abdul-Jawad's remarks and the Lebanese channel for airing them.
http://in.reuters.com/article/worldNews/idINIndia-41478620090801?sp=true

Saudi sex braggart gets 5 years, 1,000 lashes
By Mohammed Jamjoom and Octavia Nasr, CNN
(CNN) -- A Saudi court on Wednesday sentenced a man who caused uproar by bragging about his sex life on television to five years in prison and 1,000 lashes, according to Ministry of Information officials.


Mazen Abdul Jawad talked openly about his sex life on the controversial show.



Mazen Abdul Jawad, a 32-year-old airline employee and divorced father of four, spoke openly about his sexual escapades, his love of sex and losing his virginity at age 14. He made the comments on Lebanese Broadcasting Corporation, which aired the interview a few months ago.

Saudi authorities shut down LBC offices in Jeddah and Riyadh after airing the interview on an episode of its popular show "A Thick Red Line." Jawad was arrested shortly after the program aired and charged with violating Saudi Arabia's crime of publicizing vice.

On the program, Jawad is also shown in his bedroom, where he holds sexual aids up to the camera.

The room is decorated with Mickey Mouse and stuffed bears in sexually suggestive positions. The cameras gave audiences a glimpse of the room's nightclub-like chandeliers mixed with seafood-shaped wall sconces, perfume bottles and a book in Arabic, "101 Questions About Sex," that Jawad calls his "reference."

Jawad, wearing a red shirt, explained that he put his phone number and details about his car -- a red Mini Cooper -- on his mobile phone's Bluetooth. He says women usually call him to ask if the car is for sale but, he boasts, "some go out with me that same night."

The episode ended with him cruising the streets of Jeddah in his car looking for women.

The show that aired Jawad's story is as popular as it is controversial in the Middle East. It tackles taboos sometimes never discussed in public.

In one instance, a guest admitted he put up his children for sale and tried to justify why he continued to look for the highest bidder even though his kids were begging him to change his mind.

Most guests wear sunglasses, wigs and strange clothing to disguise their identities as their lives can be endangered for talking about such taboo subjects.

Surprisingly, Jawad did not disguise his identity on the program.

The episode caused an uproar in deeply conservative Saudi Arabia, where sharia, or Islamic law, is practiced. Pre-marital sex is illegal, and unrelated men and women are not permitted to mingle.

The segment in question has been posted on the video-sharing site YouTube since its initial broadcast last month, and has been viewed hundreds of thousands of times.

Speaking about promiscuous acts "is a violation of the sharia regulations on the one hand and against Saudi customs on the other," police spokesman Suleiman Al-Mutawae told Arab News, an English-language daily newspaper in Saudi Arabia.



Before Jawad's detention, Arab News reported that he initiated a damage-control campaign, apologized for his comments and was considering filing a complaint against the show's producers for presenting him "in the worst possible manner by taking two hours of footage and condensing it down to a minutes-long segment."

Jawad's lawyer could not be reached for comment. The ministry officials spoke to CNN on the condition of anonymity.

http://www.cnn.com/2009/WORLD/meast/10/07/saudi.sex.braggart/index.html

My Reflection


I started looking for the video on You Tube after I read the news in Chinese, I don't like only gathering information from newspaper because they may only highlight what's important to them. In the clip, unfortunately, I can't understand the spoken language, fortunately, I can understand the body language. I still want to get the English transcript of the programme.

In my perception, Jawad was showing his lifestyle which including sexual activity without much details at all. It seems his live is full of colour with contrast, passion, friendship, energy and joy. And he may want to demonstrate a modern side of his life with red Mini Cooper and interior home design. He showed his sex toys and condoms in front of the TV (the image wasn't shown in the TV) without erotic feelings.

I started questioning about why Jawad got such a bit trouble after this TV programme?
Culture difference
"The episode caused an uproar in deeply conservative Saudi Arabia, where sharia, or Islamic law, is practiced. Pre-marital sex is illegal, and unrelated men and women are not permitted to mingle."

If this is what they believe and what they behave, it is their rules and norms. I may not agree with but I may able to understand, because I come from a different culture and society. It's fine that we don't have to live in a same standard and way and it's impossible too (I think)!

It makes me want to understand more about the culture difference, I want to be aware of the difference and being sensitive to the difference!

How I imply to sex education


Showing the facts is different from imposing certain value in sex education, showing the fact selectively w/o intention is a way to demonstrate the value. Such as usage of condom, usually, people say it's good to use condom to practise safe sex. However, parents would worry about their teenage children would practise sex when they know how to prevent unwanted pregnancy. As a sex educator, my value is "education is important with complete information", however, information can't be complete when the technology is still growing and developing. If I'm only saying how good or important to use condom, then I'm just promoting the condom business, it's not what I want to do.

So I want to put the sex education about condom in this way...
Condom = safe sex? = good sex?
(1) What is condom? What does it made of? Who design the condom? When it's in the market? What company is making condom? How does it work? Other options?
(2) Who buy condom? Who use condom? How do they use condom? What impact it gives to the society?
(3) Why using condom is recommended by most medical people?
(4) Different view points from other parties (Catholic, Islamic, etc) about using condom, marital or pre-marital sex
(5) Using condom = safe sex? Proper usage of condom, is it very "safe"? What's "safe" (biological vs. psychological)
(6) Conversations between "condom user" and "non-condom-user" in extra-marital sex, married and/or pre-married situations
(7) Good sex = fully understand the consequences + consent + mutual respect + personal choice and decision making + risk taking + enjoyment
(8) Good life = good sex is part of it, what's the portion of sexual activity in our daily life?

[providing the facts, non-judgemental attitude towards value, always respect the differences]