Presentable or Talkative?

Usually we got to understand each other with conversation, although misunderstanding is very common error in our communication. We read the message including words, facial expression, posture, tune and the situation as well. Have you ever meet a possible partner who is doing interesting things and share same hobby? But you found difficult to make conversation with.

 

Let's think about talkative and presentable, they have similar meaning but have quite different impression. But I would like to look at their similarity which is it's an ONE-WAY-communication. It's means bla-bla-bla!

 

Hey! I think the bla-bla-bla would be useful for people to know part of you, usually it's the basic part of you that you want to show. If others would like to get to know your more, then they would ask following up questions. Unfortunately, some people is not very good at responding to response. So, let's look at this!

 

It's not about answer, it's about attitude

 

People can have different opinions anyway, and it reflects the social norms and knowledge. But when we look at the response, such as, did he/she listen to your question? How much he/she understand your question? How willing he/she take your question as an open of discussion? How quickly he/she draw into a conclusion?

 

These behaviours may show the style of the person:

(1) Ready to accept the difference: being interested to your opinion (or any other opinion apart from his/her own opinion)

(2) Conscious type: need to think carefully before to make a response (choosing the right words and information)

(3) Lack of confident: keep presenting the similar thing/thoughts (which is comfortable for him/her)

(4) High awareness: try to associate things/experience together and find a better/different way to understand things

 

To remind you, high self-confidence behaviour could reflect lack of self-confident. For example, people would overly express their strength to cover up their weakness, and the strength is not the real strength and the weaknesses are not the real one neither. So the bla-bla-bla plus bla-bla-bla would give us a hint. Of cause, more exploration is needed.

 

When we look at people's response, it already gives us a great opportunity to know a person which he/she can't say verbally!

 

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It's out of the track of the post, but I'm also thinking about activity in intimate couple which doesn't need much verbal communication, but the physical interaction is more important, which is in our sex life! Using a stroke to response your partner's sexual request, or a kiss, would it give different impression to you about how much interest that he/she would like to get you? How would you response when your partner is wearing a sexy night-cloth and undoing your belt when you have a light headache?

 

We only find out the sexual habit of your partner after getting on with each other, whatever long-term or short-term, and it's still hard to get this information from anywhere else. Some people usually try to get this impression by cloth, lip stick, perfume, underwear, etc.  But your guess could go completely wrong!

 

Maybe it's impossible for some couples to discuss about this before they begin the relationship, too embarrassing (maybe). Or they may not think the sexual life could be so important to them as a enjoyment they can share.

 

I'm curious about anyone may enquire the ex-s to get comments or reviews?