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Tuesday, 21 December 2010

Do status expectations affect how we interpret interruption in conversation?

For Chinese, interruption in conversation is impolite, not respecting others, but it's so common in our daily dialogue with fellows, friends, family, and etc.

I guess you may experience that when you were talking to somebody and you ways can't finish your sentence or idea, it may bring you headache if you need him/her to listen to you.

Sometimes, you may let your partner to finish the sentence for you, it's also a kind of interruption, but in a passive form. Then, who gain the status? It seems that your partner gain the status because you were interrupted, but you were the person. To let it happened, which also means that you still have the power.

Recently, I learnt from a friend about 'no word', it's an idea about no word is needed in communication and still able to feel the need of a person.

This 'no word' technique is lso very common in couples when they have unresolved conflicts, it helps the to maintain the conflict in a quiet way.
For some couples, quiet cannot last very long! When one side is a 'non worder', and the other side is a 'worder', I'm sure the 'non worder' has more power than the 'worder', because this is the best way to drive people nut!

Interruption with silence maybe more powerful then interruption with words!

- Lilac

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Do status expectations affect how we interpret interruption in conversation?

Two experiments examined how interrupters and their targets are perceived in same- and mixed-gender dyads. In Experiment 1, participants listened to a brief audiotaped conversation in which one person interrupted the other five times. In Experiment 2, four confederates (two men and two women) systematically interrupted naïve participants while discussing an article. In general, interrupters gained in status and targets of interruption lost status. In addition, participants who were interrupted rated themselves as less influential than those who were not interrupted. As expected, interrupters, especially female interrupters, were liked less than those who did not interrupt. Theoretical implications are discussed.


Source: "Attaining Status at the Expense of Likeability: Pilfering Power Through Conversational Interruption" from Journal of Nonverbal Behavior, Volume 32, Number 4, 241-260

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I think we should have our way to enjoy life, We should be able to make our life more colourful! “We are similar, but we are so different!” We have our preference of colour and how we use it! Our intimate relationship, Some say, it's complicated and hard to reach! It’s true, but we can find a way to manage it and enjoy it!