Telling my best friend I was gay and I loved him has wrecked our relationship

When the friendship turn into something else, this love message was sent by one side only, it's not a click for both of them. This situation happens very often in opposite-sex relationship as well.

Some people don't expect the friendship will turn into a romance, and they may prefer not to. Usually it means you are not his/her type. And it will make the friendship a bit strange to handle for awhile. It takes time for both of you to settle down the emotions...

From:
Your emotions: disappointed by he doesn't want to be your lover
His emotions: being nervous because your friend is gay and he was interested in you, and sad about losing a hood friend

And get into:
Your emotions: it's ok to see him as a friend, or a good friend.
His emotions: has the trust on him that the friendship is still there.

- Lilac

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Telling my best friend I was gay and I loved him has wrecked our relationship

I have fallen in love with my best friend at university. I am gay and he is straight, so I realised nothing would happen between us, though this made it no easier. Before I could honestly tell him how I felt, we had a falling-out and did not see each other over the summer. Upon returning to university, I told him everything.

He took this bombshell extraordinarily well, but things still weren't right between us. He then confessed he felt betrayed and lied to by me, for "pretending to be straight", and we are no longer speaking.

I am happy to be finally out, but until this situation is resolved I won't be fully comfortable with my sexuality as it has wrecked such a good friendship. Can we ever just be friends again, or have my feelings caused irreparable damage?