A little secret: Punishment

Have you ever get angry with your husband? The anger is not strong enough to form a fight but you would like to punish in by not having sex with him.

I heard similar idea from different women, they found that it's a way to show their power. In a way, it sounds similar to chasing-escaping. If you think the chasing one has the power to start a fight, be criticising, throw the anger, etc. But the one who being silence is the most power weapon.

Of cause the relationship would be rotten if you let it be for long enough.

The secret recipe of the punishment is don't let your spouse know that you're punishing him (or her, of course). Maybe you have a bad day, feel tired, not in the mood, or whatsoever, so that you don't want to have sex with him (or her, of course, again). Have a hug to show that you're there, but you don't want to be too close.

In a way, you have more time and capacity to think about what was going on, what you were angry at. Girls & boys, you need space to take care of your emotions, and you have choice to handle it. Try not to make it worst if you have a chance to make it better. We know that some anger would just go away, and you learn how to handle the situation better when it happens again.

Regards,

Lilac Kamiya

Ps.
Maybe some say 'punishment' is too negative, but it's so natural in our human being. And realistically, we can't behave perfect all the time.