My girlfriend always found a reason not to have sex. When she finally agreed, I cried off. Now she says I'm gay

I hope both of you can have empathy to each other about the readiness of moving on in the intimate relationship towards each other. It takes time to understand each other and get an idea about how much we want to share and how much we want to on-hold, which include sex, friends or/and family recognition, private time, future plan, money, etc.

When the partner doesn't feel comfortable enough to offer more, it's time to observe more, be patient! It's also a way to show your respect and care, which is a very mature attitude!

In this case, the boyfriend showed his respect even though his was carrying some questions in his mind. But it also showed that the boyfriend was carrying a quite tradition gender role on sex, which means man should take an active role in sex. So, when the girlfriend took the initiative, he was very shock and his body had reflected his surprise.

It could be too soon to identify the pattern of their relationship. But this couple should be more aware of their expected (or ideal) vs realistic role in the relationship.

- Lilac

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My girlfriend always found a reason not to have sex. When she finally agreed, I cried off. Now she says I'm gay

I'm a 22-year-old university student. My partner of six months has been busy and we've never managed to find time to spend an evening together. I've been asked to leave her place on many occasions; on account of a headache, too much work, being tired, a family member being ill, a friend being dead. The list is endless. However two nights ago, completely unannounced, she decided to visit me, making it clear that now she was ready to stay the evening. We ended up in my bedroom and she jumped on me. However, after 10 minutes the smart aleck in me reared its head; I told her I had a headache and that she should book a taxi. Supposedly this makes me gay. Have I done something wrong?