舊年離婚，到現在還時常想起以前很多唔開心的事，攪到晚晚失眠，邊個可以話我聽點樣可以唔再想呢？我都知我個ex-hb都不知幾開心，攬住第個女人風流快活。話之我三母子死活，我不應該再想以前，但控制唔到，點算？
thread id: 1956720 posted by 中年小寶 on 2007-11-21 11:32:09
在不愉快的情況下分開, 不滿, 忿怒, 怨恨等的情緒會隨之出現。日常生活的一些細節也掀動我的神經線, 令我的情緒也變得不由自主。有的持續較短暫, 有的會較久。一般情況, 如本身的日常工作沒有被影響, 也沒有所謂, 因為也屬正常的調整期。但如果連你自己的工作, 家務, 照顧子女也開始升任不來, 這就是警號!
其實, 每個人也是尋求好的出路, 好的結局。往往環境的轉變令我們招架不住, 方寸大亂。但不滿, 忿怒, 怨恨等的心態卻令我們心存反擊或報復的想法, 將對方成為"假想敵"。稱之為"假想敵", 因為是假的, 是想像出來的。當然, 他曾做的事可能令你心如刀割。但經你的思考及想像後, 卻變成"似層層"。當其他人在安慰你時, 有時會更將那些"似層層"再變成事實。情況之可怕是, 那些"事實"只會令你越不快樂。
只有拋棄那些想法才是出路, 才有快樂。工作再工作亦不能為你鋪出快樂之路。
但認清自己的傷痛, 將它整理, 了解它己成為自己的一部分, 令自己更成熟, 卻可以將傷痛處理。忘記是困難的, 除非你有失憶的前科。學懂與它共存方為上策!
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Ms. Kamiya has a passion to help people with couple relationship and initimacy issues. She has served disadvantaged individuals & families in Hong Kong since 1998 with an increasing emphasis on services related to marriage and sexuality.
Through counselling to help people to reflect their own issues and underneath thoughts which help them to make a better decision in confused situation.
Through counselling to help people to reflect their own issues and underneath thoughts which help them to make a better decision in confused situation.
Background
Sexuality Education Certification, Hong Kong (2010)
American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists
Master in Social Science Marriage and Family Therapy (2009)
The University of Hong Kong
Master in Counselling (2005)
The University of New England, Australia
American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists
Master in Social Science Marriage and Family Therapy (2009)
The University of Hong Kong
Master in Counselling (2005)
The University of New England, Australia
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Free introductory counsultation is available through the following contact:
lilac.counselling@gmail.com
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by phone HK$ 300/50mins
face-to-face HK$ 500/50mins
in English & Cantonese
lilac.counselling@gmail.com
Follow-up:
by phone HK$ 300/50mins
face-to-face HK$ 500/50mins
in English & Cantonese
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